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Living
NOW Beats 'I Can't" It's interesting that when we feel "I Can't"…we often feel like the victim of some circumstance outside of ourselves. "I Can't" shows up when our concerns and issues take us out of our comfort zone. So what are you really saying when you tell yourself "I Can't"? I don't want to, I don't have time, I don't have the right tools, I'm afraid or I'm not good at it? An I "Can't" attitude can be called many different names. It took me awhile to recognize my "I Can't" since I am a positive person who believes that anything is possible. But…when I get impatient, frustrated and irritable…I am experiencing my "I Can't". I have to stop and really notice what's happening in the moment. Why am I so impatient right NOW? Here are the reasons in a recent situation: I had deadlines to get materials in the mail, I was not being efficient, my schedule was messed up, I had allocated the time to get projects done and "I Can't". All this frustration because my computer was dying and the printer wouldn't print…and "I CAN'T" fix it! I felt the victim of technology! I had become accustom to feeling the victim in regards to technology and can easily imagine being frustrated in the future. However, when I stop and only focus on dealing with the issue at hand…calmly and proactively…I let go of thinking about past irritations and anticipating future challenges. My solutions come by only focusing on the present moment…right NOW…since action can only take place in the present time anyway. While the feeling of frustration around technology might not go away… I developed newfound confidence that "I Can" deal with it. What are some "I Can't"
beliefs that you have? Or perhaps, for you too, "I Can't"
shows up as frustration in dealing with situations where you feel the
victim. When these feelings arise, stop and notice what is happen in the
moment…right NOW. It takes courage to be responsible for our
attitudes, concerns and actions. It often seems easier to avoid the
issue…but it rarely goes away. Looking deeper at the underlying
concern should help you too in taking action and knowing "I
Can" handle this. Living in the NOW beats "I Can't" every
time! About the Author Terri Norvell is a dynamic speaker and change master. She assists individuals and teams to thrive with change by developing their leadership skills, ongoing motivation and personal responsibility. Participants in her sessions gain proof and confidence that they can achieve whatever they desire! Her experience in building and motivating teams led her to focus on delivering high-impact programs. She has a proven track record of success: as VP for a $1.2B property management & development firm, GM for a $9M temporary housing company and many business start-ups. Her expertise is shared at numerous national conferences including Sales & Marketing Magic (12 years), Multi Housing World (11 years), National Apartment Association, Association of Temporary Housing Providers, and the Conference for Chamber Executives, to name a few. She is a nationally recognized & published author on personal performance and leadership. To schedule a performance session for your team contact Norvell Associates -The InnerPrize - A People Development Company, 970-377-2000 or click here to email Terri Norvell. Legal Notification / Reprint & Repost Policy | Contact Us ©MutlifamilyPro ISSN #1078 1412.
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